A strategy for gay rights activism?

Memo to Iraq By Gary J. Bass

When ordinary people come together across ethnic lines to form unions, political parties, soccer leagues, or movie clubs, their social connections can help prevent civil strife.

The scariest rift in India is between Hindus and Muslims...civic ties, nurtured in good times, can ride out the inevitable shocks that come from bad times.

The article goes on to talk about how the world might use the experience of India to help put together a real nation in Iraq. It seems to me that this is also a good strategy to think about in the continuing struggle for gay rights. Perhaps now that the Supreme Court has said that sodomy laws are unconstitutional, it might be a good idea to spend less time organizing killer Pride Parades (whose message is "WE'RE HERE. WE'RE QUEER. GET USED TO IT) and more time working on the local neighborhood organization, working for political candidates, etc. Time to be out and visible and part of ordinary life -- "Why, yes, Mrs. Smith, I am bisexual. Now, how did you say we needed to fold these brochures for Spring Fest again?"